The Friends We Keep
The Friends We Keep is a story that addresses the complexities of friendship—the sense of community, companionship, and joy it adds to our lives, but also the stress and confusion it can cause when there is conflict within our friendships.
The primary message within the book reminds readers that it’s okay to respectfully disagree on things and remain friends with someone. When we shut others out and only surround ourselves with those who agree with us or say what we want to hear, it hinders our growth as an individual. It also thwarts opportunities to learn from each other. Respectful dissent is healthy and ought to be encouraged. The best friendships flourish where kindness and honesty prevail.
The second message within the book teaches readers that the coming and going of friends is one of the many challenges we encounter throughout life. It’s never easy to let someone go, but sometimes we must. At the end of the day, we should surround ourselves with people who like us for who we are and inspire us to be our best selves.
When friendships fade it doesn’t diminish the good times you had with them or the value you both added to each other’s lives while you were close. Sometimes people grow apart—that is the nature of being human. There will be other times when you must make the decision to walk away from a friendship. If you feel disrespected, disregarded, used, or bullied, it is okay to leave. Remember that you control who you call a friend.
There are many different levels of friendship. Some friends you may feel super close with; you talk to them daily, tell them everything, and do lots of things together. Other friends you see and talk to less often, but they’re always there for you when you need them and when you reconnect it’s like no time has passed at all. All levels of friendship are valid and beneficial to creating a joyful life.
As a reminder: To keep good friends, you must also be a good friend.
The lessons you’ll find within this story showcase the intricacies of friendship.
Cherish those who share kindness, honesty, patience, and respect.
These are the friends we keep.